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It’s officially over when you signed the divorce paper or one party decided to call it off. That one action turns from lovers to strangers. Have you ever had such feelings before? It hurts so much and your hope and dreams basically dashed. Well, this happens to me few years back. The scar is always there for me to remember.

However, everyone has their own story to tell. As much as relationships hurts, divorce is twice more hurting than ever. Imagine you were a happy bride and married for decades or years and started your own family with kids. Divorce was the last resort which both agreed that separation was the best solution. Then, here comes the difficulties on finding the best divorce lawyer in Singapore to protect your interest.

So, what are the ways to make your ‘new’ life after the crisis? How do you want to start it? Here are some of the tips that I personally did it and of course some information from various articles’.

1. MOURN FOR YOURSELF
It’s like mourning for your loss. Be it a relationship or divorce. Cry out loud, stay away from friends and family or things that makes you feel better. Release your emotions that have to do with the grievances. But, set a time frame and move on from there. Saying is cheap but you need to have the determination and mentality that loss is loss.

2. WORK THROUGH YOUR FEELINGS
Please refrain or stop yourself thinking back the memories that you had with him. It’s all over and it’s called PAST TENSE. It is very hard especially you are alone so talk to your friends to share out your feelings. Shift your attention to other things such as jogging, outing with friends and things that can work you through the feelings.

3. LOVE YOURSELF
If you were just like me who used to prioritize the partner first than yourself, it’s time to change. Learn to love and pamper yourself more. If you don’t love yourself, then who will? You have to work on your confidence and have faith in yourself. Make yourself worth!

4. REDISCOVER YOURSELF
When you were in a long relationship period or even married for long time, you may have given up things that you used to enjoy before. Oh well, since it’s over, rediscover yourself and picked up things that you have always wanted to try or do. It’s like rebuilding your self-esteem and grip on your life.

5. EXPLORE THE NEW YOU
The life-changing or we called it a transition period is a difficult path to go through. Some may choose to have a change of look or go travelling. Travelling does help to widen the exposure and gives you a new perspective of life. Changes are essential to improve a better version of you. Perhaps the NEW you is the ACTUAL you that you are looking for last time before you became someone’s lover or wife.

6. ME-TIME
After broke up, I find that Me-Time is quite enjoyable at times. Being alone doesn’t mean you are a weirdo especially the society now is much more accepting singles. Don’t you agree? To be frank, I used to feel isolated when I ate alone or watch movie alone but once I started to do it, it was kinda cool and nice too. People don’t judge you for that and you do not need their consent for it. It’s your life and no one tells you what to do.

7. OPEN FOR NEW RELATIONSHIPS
If you think you are ready for a new relationship, why not? But still, take it easy and slowly. You won’t want to jump into the commitments that soon, don’t you? Ask yourself what you want for your new relationship and how can you be better in the next one.

8. NEW ROLES
If you are a dependent role in your relationships, then you need to buck up after the failure relationship. Being independent is a good thing as you can take charge of your own aspects of life. I personally feel that being dependent is not a good idea after all because once you get used to it; you will tend to lost at times. Learn to manage your new roles and explore the stages of life. It is a growing process for everyone.

Having said these, it is always best that both parties could settle the relationship/ divorce in good ways. Divorce is much more complicated than relationships as complex divorce procedures are involved. So, ladies make sure you are aware of your rights and hold on to it!